Avoid dating abused women
It was clear to me that he wasn’t really that interested in a serious thing with any of the girls at the bar that night. But why the cold shoulder, from a brother I’d never met?
Why the unique snub reserved for the one fat girl in the crew?
I also have both short and long term goals for doing so. So please save the condescending lectures (and arm-chair therapy) for someone else.
This big girl (and I suspect every other big girl with access to a TV) doesn’t need it.
I know that we have huge problems with obesity in Black communities.
I have thought long and hard about my relationship to food (and exercise), and I have started to make some changes in order to remain healthy.
But um, I’m not trying to date a dude with a fat fetish.
The first will be from those folks who insist that I must really have low self-esteem about my weight and that it must be coming through to the dudes I’m meeting. The only way to live in my body, doing the work I do, is to be confident.I wish I could say that this experience was isolated, but it’s been more the rule rather than the exception for me.I think of all that CRUNK club-hopping I did in ATL back in the early days of the CFC.Those stories ring hollow, because they ultimately amount to a futile attempt to amass enough exceptions to disprove the rule.Moreover, perhaps folks aren’t considering that the partner-less fat girls simply remain invisible to you, and the thick girls with guys are visible, precisely because they are an anomaly.
Nothing can make me dance with abandon like a smoke-filled club strung out on CRUNK.